Marisa Peer is a world-renowned therapist and best-selling author. She has developed a therapeutic method called Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) that can help support people’s mental wellbeing more quickly than some traditional approaches. In 2017 she established the RTT School and has helped to train thousands of therapists globally.
Whenever we look for self esteem outside of ourselves, we are looking in the wrong place.Self esteem means believing in yourself and recognising all your positives. It means not listening to the negative self-talk your inner saboteur wants to bombard your mind with daily.
When you raise your sense of self esteem, self worth and self value, others will also raise their sense of who you are and will treat you with more respect.
Don't look to others to feel good about who you are and what you do as that tends to make you insecure, especially if you do not get the affirmation you are looking for. If you learn to be your own personal advocate, it will stand you in good stead throughout your life, allowing you to radiate self assuredness and confidence which everyone will pick up on and reflect back.
When we look for affirmation through social media, we are basing our worth on numbers - a snapshot in time that many of your friends might not see because of the vagaries of social media algorithms.In other words, something that is meaningless and random.
You are not your numbers, be it:
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Your weight
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The size clothes that you wear
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The amount of money in your bank account
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The date you were born
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The likes and follows across your social media.
None of these identify who you are. What identifies who you are is knowing that you are enough, right at this moment.
By repeating the statements below while you shower, make a cup of coffee or do your make-up, you can change your life for the better. But you have to commit to making it a habit. Positive affirmations might include:
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I matter
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I am significant
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I am loveable
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I am enough
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I am worthy
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I have something to offer the world
Why not write these on post-it notes and stick them on your bathroom mirror, your pillow or your fridge - places you’ll see them at the beginning and end of your day. The mind learns by repetition and you will truly start to feel good about yourself as your brain will create neural pathways to reinforce this positivity.
You can find out more ideas on improving your self-esteem in the new, best-selling book by Marisa Peer, Tell Yourself A Better Life, which is available on Amazon.
